Here Comes Christmas!
Ready or not... it's here! This morning finds me sitting with coffee in hand, the four-legged's running around and barking their barks of celebration of the day! I am sifting those wonderful memories of holidays past and thinking about how the kids are growing much too quickly... should have used duct tape on them I'm thinking! That stuff is great and maybe it could have kept them from growing so quickly...
But for as much as things change, and as quickly as time seems to fly by; I guess that's the way of the world. It is quite lovely to be able to watch and witness the changing of the times and the tides. Yes, the blessings are there however brief... and for that I give thanks, and so it is!
I also wonder this morning if those who are reading this are prepared for the holidays; are they taking good self-care during these magical but often stressful times... But mostly I wonder if they are continuing to write their gratitude/blessings on that paper daily; or at least make a mental and mindful note each day~~~~~~~~~ well... ???
For those who are grieving losses during this holiday season; it is important for you to know that, you are different now... Everything will feel different to you now. And that is OK.
People around you will be celebrating, having fun and laughing... and it just may be that your heart is breaking. You may at times feel overwhelmed by your pain, and that is OK. The dance of life continues; it will be there for you to join in when you can and for as long as you can.
So it may be helpful to you if:
- You believe you will survive the holidays
- You change traditions: do things differently this year!
- Balance solitude with sociability, solitude can renew your strength, your beliefs. Being with others can help you dance to the rhythm of life and help you laugh.
- Tell the stories; relive the memories of holidays past. Allow yourself to embrace those times that are special.
- Allow yourself time to "let go"; schedule yourself time for your pain of loss during the holiday season.
- Confront the quiet: let people know that you want/need to talk about your loss. Let them know it is important to you.
- Try to remember there are others in your world: try to make it a good holiday for those around you. Listen to them, talk to them, experience grace by loving and allowing the love of others into your heart.
Walk In Beauty
author of Healing Heartaches, Stories of Loss and Life
2 comments:
I have another great idea, for those who are spending perhaps a last holiday season with someone who is terminally. Capture their memories and stories. Ask them to recall holidays past and what they have cherished. Write it down. Someday you will be glad you invested the time. It is hard to be mindful of our own needs during this busy season, but you are so right. It is necessary.
Kam loved the pic and he said "Nice shoes"
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