THE GRIEF STONE...

It's that time of the year... more and more people are reporting that old man grief is paying a visit to their hearts. Overwhelming their senses and leaving them with a feeling of great sadness, sorrow revisited. Some are reporting those feelings of "why me", "if only" and "I'm so lonesome I could and do cry", while others are isolating and withdrawing. It may be a result of the dark months that are here; we are losing the light of summer, heading into winter once again. Leaves that were once alive with their brilliant green, turning to crimson and orange now fading to brown and dropping to the ground.  Darkness falling earlier each evening... all giving way to our inner feelings of aloneness at times.
It reminds me of throwing a stone into the water sometimes. Remember? Throwing that stone, not really caring where it lands.... sometimes tossing it out there, just for tossing sake. Other times throwing, really throwing; letting loose with all that pent up anger, rage, frustration... letting it all go with the stone.  Whether gently or with great force, that stone creates a ripple.... a ripple that is visible and affects all things around it.
And so it is with grief; one person's actions/reactions to their visits or re-visits of grief symptoms has a ripple affect on all those who love and are loved by that person. It ripples through the nervous system, the "nuwati" if you will of those who care. "Those who stand by and are observers to the pain of the one who is grieving, knowing there is nothing they can really do that is concrete to take the pain away. Knowing that it is truly the person living through the grief that has to choose.... yes choose to stand, lay down, move forward, or stay stuck in their pain of loss.What ever the choice, many are affected and infected by the grief of others. They are often the recipient of the out lash, the pain, the frustration of the griever. And, they are often also faced with choices during the process as well. Their choices become: to lose sight of the fact that theirs is to just be supportive vs. become a part of the grieving! Another choice that must be made is: to become a teacher or a preacher! Teachers educate if they have the proper knowledge and tools; preachers on grief are usually not well accepted as only the one who grieves knows what they are actually going through first hand.
So, while it is important to do your grief work..... It is also important to realize that your grief has an impact on those still living, loving and enjoying life and enjoying you! Therefore you do have some responsibility to honor and respect that as well while making your choices.... Work your grief, Get Help, Stand Up and Claim The Warrior Within, Honor and Remember Your Loved Ones By Living Your Life, Live Your Life With Zest, Love Those Who Are Living, Right Here Right Now  or Stay Stuck in your pain and not move.
Choose wisely....
Taken from the Book Healing Heartaches:  "Lesson One, Who you are is not who you've been and you cannot go back there again. Who you are is different now. The true challenge along the journey is learning to live differently than ever before incorporating your loved ones into the rich tapestry of your life"
"You give little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give" (The Prophet)
Walk In Beauty