When the Pressure Cooker Starts to "HISS"

Holding Up The Bridge or The Sky

 With A SMILE

Can Wear On Your Nerves

After Awhile

 If YOU Let IT

Tampa PD, Officer Jeffery Kocab

Officer Curtis

WE WILL NEVER FORGET

My heart aches for Sara Kocab

who delivered a still birth baby girl

{Lilly Nicole Kocab} July 21, 2010

precious baby of

our fallen Tampa Police Officer

Jeffery Kocab.

This news is beyond my comprhension of sad,

of sorrow and heart break 

just three weeks

after the horrific deaths

of

Jeffrey Kocab and fellow Officer Curtis. 

Our prayers are with you Sara, may you find comfort in knowing many have their arms around you,

today and all days since Jeff's death.

We grieve with you, share your shock and disbelief on a completely different level...

BUT

we are beside you and here for you.

Know that you are never alone dear heart, we are with you in spirit, in heart, Jeff is beside you always.

I'm sure that Jeff has Lilly Nicole in his loving arms

and they both will watch over you with love and great

tenderness always.

:'

~ ` ~

Beautiful and brilliant and OUTSTANDING morning one and all who gather here and everywhere for so many reasons, for healing ways, humor, thoughts, through it all... we are together here for all the right reasons.

Please send the families of the fallen in Tampa your best energy, your love and support. The Kocab family could and does need that support, that healing energy from all now... as they are still in shock and now reeling from this little one now

in the arms of her Daddy,

Kocab on the other-side.

So very heart wrenching for all

Coffee hot, coffee wonderful!

De-CAF coffee today, something the cardiologist says is good for me!

Had that darn ole' carotid artery study yesterday, now we wait for the results!

I got to get this off my chest and then I will probably need to get it off my chest some more in the days ahead... Speaking of pressure/tension and all of that!

The news on T.V. has let us know that the reckless and rather useless human that is friends with and was driving the car of the cop killer of our Tampa Fallen officers Kocab/Curtis may be offered "IMMUNITY"

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

WHAT IS THE STATE THINKING HERE?

OFFER HER IMMUNITY WHEN SHE DROVE AWAY FROM THE SCENE OF TWO FALLEN YOUNG MEN IN BLUE? SUPPOSEDLY IT IS SO SHE WILL TALK...

WHAT IN THE WORLD IS IT THAT SHE COULD POSSIBLY TELL ANYONE THAT WE DO NOT ALREADY KNOW?

Her ACTIONS have Already spoken LOUDLY...

Her look has said volumes.

Her ACTION IN LEAVING TWO OFFICERS LAYING IN THE ROAD HAVE SAID MORE THAN

ANYTHING THAT WILL EVER BE UTTERED FROM HER LIPS COULD EVER TELL ANYONE WHO MIGHT WANT TO EVER HEAR HER SPEAK AGAIN IN THIS LIFE.

Why in the world would anyone, I mean anyone want to grant her immunity when her ACTIONS have told us

that she has

NO COMPASSION

NO UTTERANCE OF CARE

NO HINT OF REMORSE

NO BELIEVABILAITY

EVEN IF SHE WERE TO TALK ANYWAY

HAS SOMEONE LOST THEIR SENSE OF RIGHT AND THE VERY SACREDNESS OF JUSTICE HERE.

TWO YOUNG MEN WHO GAVE THEIR LIVES IN THE LINE OF DUTY; WHO PAID THE ULTIMATE PRICE WHILE WEARING BLUE;

SERVING AND PROTECTING OUR COMMUNITIY; LEAVING BEHIND FAMILIES, FRIENDS, COMMUNITY... GONE TOO SOON.

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

THESE TWO PEOPLE WHO WERE INVOLVED IN THE FATAL SHOOTING OF OFFICERS KOCAB AND CURTIS HAVE

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING,

NOTHING TO SAY THAT WE SHOULD WANT TO BARGAIN/PLEA/DISCUSS

WITH OR ABOUT.

THEY ARE GUILTY OF TAKING INNOCENT LIVES 

BEYOND A REASON OF A DOUBT.

THE SHOOTER HAS ALSO BEEN FOUND TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR 3 ... COUNT THEM 3 OTHER MURDERS.

IF MEMORY SERVES ME CORRECTLY

HE TURNED HIMSELF IN TO POLICE

I would take that as a clear sign that even a killer

"gets it" that his days of killing  the"INNOCENT"  are nearing an end?

I would also take it that He KNOWS THE

"GIG IS UP" as in "OVER" or shall we say

"GOTCHA"

the only killing left for you to do is on the inside with others just like YOU...

Is it me, or is this rather easy to compute?

LET'S MAKE JUSTICE SWIFT,

FOR THESE TWO THAT WERE RESPONSIBLE

FOR THE HORRIFIC KILLING OF

OFFICERS KOCAB AND CURTIS

ON JUNE 29

 AND

ALLOW THESE FAMILILES, FELLOW OFFICERS AND COMMUNITIES TO SLEEP, TO REST AND

BEGIN THEL LONG AND ARDOUS

JOURNEY TO HEALING

KNOWING THAT JUSTICE HAS BEEN SERVED,

 AND

HAS BEEN SWIFT.

LOOK AT THIS WOMAN'S EYES,

LOOK AT THE KILLER'S EYES

 THERE IS NO REMORSE,

NO COMPASSION

NO CARE IN THE WORLD FOR MAN/WOMAN/CHILD

NUTHIN THERE FOLKS

THERE IS NOTHING TO GAIN FROM THEIR WORDS...

IMMUNITY/PLEA/BARGAINS?

FOR WHOSE EARS AND WHAT PURPOSE

KOCAB/CURTIS

WE WILL NEVER FORGET

GOD BLESS YOU BOTH

God Bless Baby Lilly NIcole Kocab

a little angel that has returned to play with

Daddy

and the angels 

 MEMBERS OF THE THIN BLUE LINE

AND YOUR FAMILIES

GOD BLESS YOUR SPIRIT AND LOVE OF COMMUNITY

GOD BLESS THOSE WHO SERVE OUR COMMUNITIES

OUR GREAT NATION

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My Pressure Cooker almost exploded when I watched the news... my heart aches for so many...

may have to just take a break from the media just may do that for the day.

Our hearts are united in ache with the families of Kocab, with Sara and her family and TPD.

~ ~ ~

REady for a tad of humor?

After an embarrassing phone call to the Tarpon Springs Fire Department to tell of my alarm woes... and a lot of laughter in the process, and extracting a promise from the Chief that he would not repeat our conversation; which he then yelled over the phone:

"OK Sherry, I PROMISE I WILL NEVER SAY THAT YOU HAVE CALLED AND DIDN'T KNOW THERE IS ALWAYS A BATTERY IN A SMOKE ALARM IRREGARDLESS IF IT IS ELECTRICAL OR NOT, AND I WILL NEVER TELL ANYONE HERE THAT YOU LIVE AT ...........!

Yep, funny Chief he is! Guess I'll have to make them some world famous chocolate cupcakes and take the night shift like we recently did for the Tarpon Springs Police Department as a way of saying

"Thank you for all you do for our community"

So, now that all systems are a "go" once again

(I still think it was

Magic's spirit and Kamryn that started

all of that alarm noise and mess here at the ole' homeplace)

Our Warrior Soldier Madden is soon to hit Hawaii after his tour in Iraq! Bet Texas and Mom Cathy Madden is getting goose bumps, getting stupendously excited, getting "wickedly jacked up" to wrap her arms around her son and get that party started with gratitude and great pride!

Talk about tension!!!

Remember those old pressure cookers? Was thinking about those things this morning... how that little thingy on the top used to rattle and bob back and forth as things got a little tense inside the pot...

Notice how folks seem to get that way at times?

Some call it stress while others refer to it as "tense"!

I prefer to stay in the "no pressure zone" myself, much preferring it to that place I've seen people get to where veins pop on the sides of their necks; jaws get tight, faces get red... voices strain... I think it a waste of valuable energy myself!

Or then there are the ones who get their "pout on" preferring to walk away in utter upset, moving to their lair but leaving a silent black hole of where they were standing or sitting, felt by all left to wonder about.

Yet another reminder of those old pressure cookers I'm thinking.

I remember with such precision Granny using a fork to raise that little bobbing silver thingy to release the steam and calm things down in that pot! Fascinating it was.

Perhaps folks should try that... Develop their own release valve like the pressure cooker.

Seems to me, if you don't develop Warrior tactics to do that with the same skill my Granny had... eventually all that steam will build up and blow that little silver thingy right off causing the lid to blow and s*i* will fly all over the place; the ceiling, the ones you love, the furniture, feelings, the heart, the nervous system...

{Literally and figuratively}

Are you feeling me here?

Let go of the little things that bug you.
Set yourself free.



It isn't the mountains ahead or the bridges that you hold up that wear you out,
                it's the grain of sand in your shoe.

Pressure/Tension/Stress/Dis-Ease; takes a physical, spiritual and emotional toll on us.

We focus too often on what we have created to worry about.
We see first, the small irritations that weight us down.
We create expectations that are unrealistic or we fail to share our expectations with those we expect from!
We allow ourselves to be swept up in the potential for pressure/tension/stress in every moment.

Why do we choose to maintain these bothersome stress levels?
Why do we choose to avoid the little thingy that bobs to indicate that we are reaching the level of pressure that could cause all hell to explode when we could just as easily release the pressure ourselves in a calm and talented way?
How are we benefited by layering negative perceptions of what awful fate will befall us at every turn of the bend?
Why worry?

Does fretting lift us or weigh us down?
Does having unrealistic expectations of others benefit us; or does really having expectations of others serve us well?

In my own life I know people who work themselves up into a frenzy over the least little thing.

They expect the worst and often bring it about just by what they plant in their own head.
I see no benefit in the pressure/tension/hurt/stress.

For some, the worry is immobilizing.

There are those who spend so much time twirling about in an anxious state that they worn out before they begin the task. Where is the fun in that I wonder...

Some fear failure, and so, do nothing to succeed.

Others interpret everything as a poison dart headed their way.

How often can I say that it is all about perception?

Identify the outcome as positive, no matter the road traveled to get there.

Know that in the end it will all work out. Make a plan, and work the plan.

Laugh at missteps.

A bump in the road is not more that a bump. You will not be derailed by a mere bump. Approach every problem, big and small as another opportunity to come up with a workable solution.

I have said it before and consider it the most important truth.. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.


So know that you can.

Know in the very core of your being that you are the master of your own life.

Make the difficult choices.

To allow yourself to be stuck I the quicksand of self doubt and worry is to plan to fail.

To watch the pressure cooker and that little cute thingy on the top start to move and shake and bob and get faster.... quicker and faster... and CHOOSE to not intervene...  well, just know it is all about choices! Whether that little gadget is internally trying to tell you something or whether you are watching it on the stove or in the eyes of someone you love... The results will be the same.... Best to stop it before it explodes by tools of the trade is my way of thinkin...



If you choose worry and stress, aggravation and annoyance, you will bring upon yourself,
dis-ease PRESSURE, TENSION, and angst.
Is this the desire of your heart?

To suffer instead of enjoy?
To find fault instead of peace of mind?

Surely not.
If we master nothing else in life, we must come to know that our lives are governed by the thoughts we entertain.

I for one, refuse to waste my own potential joy by burying it under layers of PRESSURE/TENSION/stress. A pressure cooker may get a bit uncomfortable at time, may turn out some great meals... but that little silver thing will give you fair warning when it's had enough... when the steam and the pressure are building {figuratively and literally} (visualize my friends)
and with practice YOU too can know exactly how to release that pressure like Granny used to and avoid one "mell-of-a-hess" for you and those around you...
Some bells/most bells just can't be unrung if you know what I mean.... particularly when rung as a result of too much pressure/tension/stress.  Choose wisely when and where to release that pressure in your inner brain/cooker ~ for you and everyone else!

Every time a worrisome thought, a "niggling failed expectation" presents itself, cast it away.
Think instead of one small step you can take to mitigate the worry.
Each end every time you feel the pressure building, stress out, re-center yourself.
Visualize that pressure cooker, with that little "what-ya'callit" moving and you getting it settled!
Start with a quick dose of gratitude. Mix in, a smile, add a couple of warm thoughts to feel a light heart.

Refuse to absorb the pressure/tension/stress. Make a better choice for you.
                            For this moment.

Our lives are made up one moment at a time. One thought, one feeling, one action.

Let your life be worth all that you choose to do and feel in this moment.

"If the world seems cold to you, kindle fires to warm it." (David Lloyd George)

Isn't that what this sacred page is all about? Keeping the fires burning with thoughts on the wind to those who enter here, those who need warriors standing for them always... We are together on the page my friends... With powerful angels we are! STOMP

Thoughts on the wind to all today...
We Will Never Forget ~


When one moment beings about a dark feeling, reach into your heart and let the light you can be, take over to dispel the darkness.

You are not alone...
Make good choices.
Don’t worry.
Release the Pressure/Tension/stress, welcome the knowledge that you are capable, joyful, thankful and whole.

YOU now can visualize the way through it... NOW.... JUST DO IT!

Walk In Beauty,
DRSES
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