~ We Get What We Give ~

PUcker UP Buttercup

It's MOnday!

Sunday, a day of staying in the shade, of laying low... very very low... Paying a hefty price for my "Stupid is as Stupid Does" on Saturday feat... De-hydration, low low blood pressure... yucky indeed...

BUT

It's a new week, new thoughts and new attitude!

Wooo Hooo

So, here's what I'm thinkin, this early mornin...

yep, I'm thinking >>> we get what we give!

We Get What We Give ~



If you had to describe yourself in one word, what would it be?
 Now give this some thought.
Just one word.
 This can be a challenging exercise, because we define ourselves with along list of characteristics.
But for this exercise, I ask that you pick the one lone quality or word that would give the world the most accurate definition of who you are.


Why?
 How we define ourselves is the force behind how we think, how we feel, the very lens we view our world through.
 Let me use an easy example.
If a person defined themselves as “tuff”, we think of them as; able to fight off their enemies, able to take whatever comes their way; strong, plucky, a scrapper. But wouldn’t those extensions of “tuff” as so lead us to thinking that they also might NOT be; approachable, tolerant, compassionate and tenderhearted?
So in selecting a label for ourselves, are we implying that opposite labels are not qualities we have?

Feels like a trick question doesn’t it?
 It’s not meant to be. It is just that there is power in words.
So what word did you select to describe yourself?

Does that definition rule out any others?
Maybe, maybe not.
Is it the same way others would describe you? Does the word you selected reflect your “public” persona (the way the world sees you) or some more hidden truth about yourself.
 I think that often we display some very unintentional messages by the very way we define ourselves.


Lets’ say we stick with the “tuff” imagine. Wouldn’t that mean that we carry ourselves with a certain posture. Might the message be, “don’t mess with me”, maybe by extension, “don’t approach me”.
 Might others see us as a bit dangerous, or intimidating? What body language would we choose if we intend for others to also identify us as “tuff”?

 Could our body language alone erect some barriers in our lives? Sure it could.
 On the other hand, in a more positive interpretation of “tuff”, might others seek us out if they felt they needed someone to back them in a disagreement, or to lean into in a crises?
Maybe.


On the other hand, if we chose the word “fragile” to describe ourselves. How might we appear to the world? Delicate, nervous, afraid?
 Would we relate to the “fragile” person in the same way?
Would we turn to this person for support or assistance if we needed it?
Would we automatically become the “care-taker” of the fragile?


Are we sporting the same definition of ourselves to everyone, or just to a select few?
You know what I mean.
Street Angel, House Devil.
 Ever heard that expression?
It’s someone who acts kind and caring, pleasant and sociable outside of their own close circle, then tyrannizes the family behind closed doors.

This duplicity often arises when people want to be seen in a way that they are not willing to sustain. So they may be a delightful party guest, but hell to live with.
 Ever known anyone like that?
 Or have you found yourself baffled by stories of behavior in a friends spouse that you could not have imagined, and certainly never witnessed yourself?

People are very complex. We all are. But let’s not forget that our own definition of who we are, in that one word example, may be the face we put forward consciously or unconsciously that brings to us unintended reactions form others. We do “get what we give”. We are always telegraphing messages with our posture, our body language, our words and expressions.
People do react automatically based on these messages.

So, if we send out the message ”leave me alone”, they will. If we telegraph a pleasant smile, or a curious look, we will illicit a different response.
Given that we may not always be aware of the messages we are sending, doesn’t it make sense that we sit for a few moments with the question?
How would we define ourselves.
What word would we use that would best characterize who we are?

Just some food for thought to start off your week... hope it is "wicked cool" in all ways!

The fire is burning brightly... thoughts being sent on the suns rays to all this morning ~

STOMP with great gratitude for this day.
Walk In Beauty,
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