I love Tyler Perry, but my heart aches at times

Tyler Perry

Now that is one

Handsome Man

and

Now a Face to Child Abuse

and

One who has made the Choice of Healing Pain

Coffee is ready, wanna join me?

The warmth of morning and the quiet of the start to the day is marvelous.

Today Mom, aka (COB) hits Florida

she is ready for some warmth

and

ready to enjoy all.

I am resting from being on the road so much of late

and

preparing to journey to

MN

in a few days.

So things are ever busy here.

I've been thinking recently how I would love

to sit with Tyler Perry

and

just talk over a cup of coffee,

to really enjoy him

to look into his soulful eyes

and listen to his stories

and see his face

touch his face and hug him

while validating his long and arduous journey.

He is such a warrior

and so very talented as well.

I have sat with the family and Godson's as

we laughed until we cried

at Tylers' work

on film

he is brilliant.

And then in October

he appeared on Oprah

and bared his soul

of the most horrible tales of abuse

by the hands of his father

and others

that I wept for him

and was filled

beyond like for him and his work

to

love for him

and times of ache for all he endured.

Yesterday

he was again on Oprah

a re-run I think you call it.

Darn Oprah

you could have had me on the show

and it would have been

a

"new show"

I did notice you had those

red souls on your feet though!

Love those shoes I do.

BUT

more importantly

I again watched

Tyler Perry

bare his soul and his heart.

http://www.oprah.com/showinfo/First-TV-Interview-Tyler-Perry-Speaks-Out-About-Being-Molested_1

I wonder,

how he found courage

to sit in front of so many, and as I wondered that

the camera crew scanned to the face of his

aunt

and my question was answered.

I saw the tears in his eyes

his voice was clear though, he is working through the

pain of so long ago.

He is a gentle WARRIOR

and

on a show like

OPRAH

he now has given so many others

permission

to come out of the darkness

and

into the light of healing.

Tyler thanked Oprah, for helping him, for being his reason to keep on going even in his darkest hour.

She inspired him to keep movingm, to keep going,

he is now one of the hottest stars in the sky

and one of the most talented,

one who was also destined for greatness

as was Oprah

when first interviewed by Barbra Walters

you remember.

But on National Television sitting with

Oprah, the same person who kept him from

suicide and he attempted it twice,

he was able to take her hand

look deeply into her eyes,

and with that lovely and deep voice

say,

Thank-you.

And we saw that it moved her deeply as she brushed a tear.

He is a man of dignity, a man of honor

and a man who walks with many scars of a child

who grew into a man

of solid character.

Oh how I would love an opportunity

to sit

with Tyler Perry or have dinner with him.

What a gentle soul he is.

The pain

he showed us

and when he glanced over his shoulder and

saw the photo that Oprah had on the screen of him as

a child

I noticed that he would have rather been anywhere

but on that stage;

he would have looked at anything

rather than look

at that child.

BUT

then he said the words that tore me in half.

He said

he remembered when

that child

"died"

and you knew that he meant it.

Tyler Perry; the playwrite, actor, director,

I believe he is even on Forbes

is on top of the game in the industry

and

about 14 years ago was living in his car.

He was tormented, beaten, abused, sexually and emotionally and physically.

Oprah asked Tyler:

 "what is your definition of a

miracle"?

and

Tyler responded:

" A prayer answered. I remember being a kid and praying in the hell of my house to have somebody love me and somebody that I could love".

If you haven't seen his movies

you are really missing something!

I have laughed until I cried

at

Madea

which he plays himself

and

I do a "wicked" Madea impersonation

of which the Godsons just fall in the floor

laughing at me.

But to listen to the interview

with Oprah

will really show and tell you the depth of one mans'

soul

and his desire to heal from deep within.

A little innocent boy

and

the pain he has had to bury.

He only made the decision to come forward

with this story after his Mom

died

but I still wonder

and will wonder I guess.

I still see fear in his eyes, and when he talked

about providing for his father

with a home...

I wonder about the little boy that he said

"died that day"

if perhaps one day

that little boy will come back

and

will say to him,

it is time

for me to have the last word.

Maybe just maybe

it is his working so hard

and

elevating women so very much

in his work, his art, his films

that

Tyler

will elevate himself even higher.

Someday

he may slay all the dragons of the past

and that little child

may find his way back

knowing that no one

will ever harm him again

in life.

Then

perhaps he will have his attorneys

give a call to the man

living in Tyler Perry's home

and let him know

"the gig is up"

and he as 90 days to leave the premises

because

honor

has been done

and

it's time for the man who is slated to have fathered

Mr Tyler Perry

 to move on.

And then

it will be time

time for

Tyler Perry to finally

celebrate his brilliance

his survival

and

to live his best life

with an attitude of great

wonderment

and

joy

knowing that he is

a

Warrior.

Tyler has given a voice

to  men to women who have come forward now

and to resolve their traumas

to allow others to be there for them

and

to find ways to empower them

with love, tenderness and

understanding.

Tyler Perry is

one of the men

to have your children

look up to.

He is sure a man I would love to spend some

time with,

just to let him know

"I'll Stand By You".

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How is it that we use a word

like "molest" when we speak of what is done

to children

and

read signs now that say

"do not molest the alligators"

at restaurants where alligators are known to hang

out?

What a confusing word now that I think about it.

Hard to use that word for alligator and then to think it is used in such a way for our precious

children isn't it?

We must protect our children

and

the child that lives within all of us!

So

with that said,

get out there and

take care of YOU

celebrate the

child within you.

Love that child that resides within,

if you have trauma

from the past

find someone, a therapist that is good,

talk it through

resolve it NOW.

Blow bubbles

smile at puddles

hell

jump in puddles

and

enjoy

life!

You are your most precious resource.

The fire is burning brightly, its embers are hot sage and cedar are filling the air with

HOPE on the winds for all who gather here.

Walk In Beauty,

DRSES
Author of

Healing Heartaches, Stories of Loss and Life

http://www.drsherryeshowalter.com/