"Nobody Can Make You Feel Inferior
Without Your Permission" (Eleanor Roosevelt)
Ah but how true those words of such a great woman, how true they ring today. Not no--- body can make you feel nothing... without your permission... NOW repeat after me:
"NO BODY, NOBODY CAN MAKE ME FEEL INFERIOR, BAD, SMALL WITHOUT MY PERMISSION"
Didn't that feel good? Isn't that an empowering thought?
Matters of the heart are difficult at times... as are relationships, friendships, families, lovers, loss, grief, abuse, hurt, beauty, art, animals...
Matters of the heart left to simmer and boil are similar to an old fashioned pressure cooker... you remember... those large pots with the little thingy on top that would shake and tremble and .... oh my if you didn't let the steam escape the whole thing could blow and ....
Matters of the heart can be like that too if they are left to simmer and stew and don't have a release... people get sick, hearts go flitter when they oughta flutter (technical terms here you notice I am sure)! Feelings get stuffed, people self-medicate with drugs or alcohol... nothing good comes from stuffing feelings and matters of the heart over time I don't think. At some point that proverbial straw will find its way to the camel's back and... "snap"!
You get where I'm headed right? People need to find ways to express themselves in these days of high stress, complicated relationships, multiple and cumulative losses. We need to learn from devastation how to honor and respect ourselves and those around us. We need to play better in the sandbox with others... how can we teach the children to play together if as adults we are lacking in those very skills?
Matters of the heart: perhaps if people would tape record themselves in conversations with others they could better hear how they sound, better understand what and how others perceive them, why they get hurt by their words... perhaps we would get better at practicing mindfulness.. ummm, "think before you speak" I believe is the saying we've all heard as children!
Journalling is a wonderful way to let emotions out of those stuck places in your heart, to free up your mind and soul with the hope of making sense when things feel confused or hurtful in your heart. It may be that by writing it on paper you can free yourself from the clouds that skew your words and your thoughts, creating open pathways and healing to be yours. Most people I have known have a terrible time in the beginning of trying to journal... they feel it a burden, a waste of time, think it something they may be read by others. I will often suggest that they find a safe place to keep their pencil and notebook, perhaps even under the bed if need be... start small and work tall... maybe one line the first day, perhaps it would read like this...
Well here I am writing in this dumb journal and I feel like a fool. But here I am sitting and writing and I have a headache but I do think it is dumb for her to suggest that I am missing my son and that it will be good for me to tell write that I can't sleep because I keep thinking he will walk through the door and I don't want to miss a thing.
See that wasn't so hard now was it? It will get easier the more you do it, and later on you will find that you can look back and see where you have been in your thoughts, where you are and the things you want to change, do differently. There may come a time when you even want to share it with someone. Who knows there may even be a book in there somewhere!
I had so many thoughts this week that today leaves me with this one and for this one I will leave you for today:
It's one thing to have sight, but quite another thing to have a vision like the Eagle, the protective spirit of the bear and the resolve and steadiness of the turtle along with the humor and wit of the coyote trickster...
All the while attending to the very sacred matters of the heart.
Do something good for you today; do something wonderful for someone else; an email, a thought across the wind, a cry from the heart of prayer and hope to someone somewhere.
Walk IN Beauty.
author of Healing Heartaches, Stories of Loss & Life
4 comments:
Will do. Good idea. I feel better whenever I do a kind deed. Especially if it is a secret good deed. Don't have a journal, but have thought about it more than a few times. Your blogs are always warm and welcoming.
Thank You
Many times thru out the years I have started a journal. I think I dont want anyone to know what I am feeling and the hurt I have been thru. I will wait and then try again and the same thing happens. There are so many excuses we use. After reading today so many things in the blog is speaking to me I just may try again and maybe one day I will succeed. Thanks for your words of wisdom.
Thank you for quoting one of my heros...Eleanor Roosevelt. I wear a button with her quote, "Do one thing every day that scares you."
It is hard for me to understand people not journaling ( people do not know what they do not know)....but I often wonder if people are scared of what they will write. My solution: burn the paper.
Yes, it is very scary to live alone in a foreign place with no spouse, family, or friends...but I follow Eleanor's quote.
As far as your quote from her....I agree that NO Body can make us feel inferior...but ourselves. Enjoy the quotes you share....enjoy the wolf moon...it is making me journal what I am hungry for.
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