Thursday, January 31, 2013

R E S P E C T ... just sayin

RESPECT; self, others, opinions, thoughts, ideals, earned not given. Boosts self esteem. Learned through life lessons.
: a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation respect
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: an act of giving particular attention : consideration
a : high or special regard : esteem
b : the quality or state of being esteemed
c plural : expressions of high or special regard or deference respect
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in respect of
chiefly British : with respect to : concerning
in respect to
: with respect to 
with respect to
: with reference to : in relation to
Heard most often when listening to the old school singing of Aretha Franklin's hit, 
Seemingly very old school these days indeed at times, yet something valued by most cultures, most tribes, most families and long missed by many. R E S P E C T 
Still attainable, still taught in many homes and workplaces, in communities. Yet, often hard lessons for many to learn, hard role models to find that demonstrate the value in and the importance of.
R E S P E C T 
Truly not a hard thing to grasp, yet many thing it is something to be granted easily and not have to work a plan to achieve, nor to strive for excellence in actions to maintain. Funny that thought, that one can demand respect or think that it odd when they find another fail to respect them when their actions or lack of follow through leads the actions of another to not respect them!
Respect is earned through the behaviors and actions of others; trust is often paramount in earning that respect; actions often speak much louder than words. We witness the behaviors of those we hold in esteem, as role models and somehow model our own decisions and thoughts after them as children or young people, formulating our beliefs accordingly, our dreams and hopes and our values of respect, honor and truth telling. Thus respect or lack thereof is born. It thrives on truth, on hard work and on the ultimate desire to be better than we ever thought possible.
Remember how Aretha belted out the song?

"What you want, baby I got it... All I'm asking for is a little respect" ...
And so it goes, we all make choices of how we live our lives; in respectful and right way relations or we do not. We teach others how to treat us, and we teach others how to treat others and whether or not they will show or command respect by their very actions in each step they take. Right way relations can be easy if each word is uttered in truth and each step is taken on the right road, knowing that there will be bumps and at times we all will hit the ground. How we rise and dust the dirt off is what makes us or breaks us, we decide that in respectful ways or we do not. Who we associate with and the habits we pick up along the way, the mannerisms and behaviors become something we ultimately must own.  And somewhere along the line, we must decide if we are deserving of the distinction of respect by what we give and that will become evident on what we receive.
It is in the giving that we receive more.
It may just be at times our children are not being taught respect, not being held to standards that allow for conversation, for education of life's lessons in those formulative years of wonderment. We are losing the Elders and wisdom keepers who could easily say, "lay down that phone, that gadget and tell me what do you want to be when you are grown, what are your dreams and how do you want others to treat you.. and then tell stories of how robin got its red chest.  We are losing the ability to explain the importance of "working the plan" and then describing the plan to our kids and having the fortitude of following through on seeing it through with them and for them to make them see the value of love, of the gifts of the heart in respect, care, compassion and kindness to and for something greater than the moment.  We may just need to go back and remember, how we wanted it better way back then and now act upon it, remembering the pride of ownership when a smile touched our souls as youth over something as kind as handing another our hand, in opening a door, in extending  a hand, in community service by teaching those who now seem to not be engaged with community.
R E S P E C T 
We may do well to clean our own filters on that very word when we type, talk, engage, honoring our differences in and on views, opinions while agreeing to disagree yet doing so with respect.

Yes, old school and respect, can come around to the new respect if we choose wisely and use it well.  Look around you, listen and follow through.
 Respect; each to their own view and being open to being wrong at times now a days and accepting people as they are is the "new definition" the urban view so to speak. It means not "dumping on anyone" just because you are having a bad day, or are too lazy to do what you need to do, so it seems. The "urban view" and the "now" is not so bad a definition.
It is all that and so much more.

It is being kind to others ALWAYS, and it means walking your road in a good way an honorable way.  One thing is certain, it is something that is serious and not to be taken lightly. 
 “The secret of a happy life is respect. Respect for yourself and respect for others.”
  Ayad Akhtar


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fluff said...

Great words today Dr. Sherry. Thank you always for sharing your wisdom. I wish for you and all our friends here a Blessed and Peaceful day.

oshkosh said...

And KEEP sharing that wisdom!!!!! THANK YOU
Blessings to all!