Saturday, May 15, 2010

HOW TO: THE POWER OF A LOOK!


"You DO NOT Mess With The NANA,
The Mama"
or
Those who Find Comfort HERE
(as stated by "THE LOOK of Nana's Girl)

 ~ Good mornin' mornin ~
Coffee is ready, and so am I
How bout' that fab foto of my Olivia?
Trust me... you do NOT want to be on the other end of that "LOOK"... LOLs
it can bring a grown-up down
to their knees all right!

That's Nana's girl... and Nana's girl doesn't like ugly; has no use for "negative" in her world...
NOPE, she just doesn't like it at all.
/BUT\
She does like this blogspot!
She "gets it", she understands that good things sometimes happens to great people
and to bad people ~
 she "gets it"
that awful things
sometimes happens to
really really good people as well.
She "gets it"
that things can and usually are very funny!
 She "gets it" that every day can be
"the best day ever" ~
She
"GETS IT"
that Cancer is a terrible disease.
SHE GETS IT:
CANCER SUCKS!

Olivia has beautiful, beautiful beyond words black long and luscious hair... but then again... my girl IS BEAUTIFUL!
Last year she had that beautiful hair CUT OFF...
yep just like that. It was her idea to do it.
Just like that!
S T O M P
Locks of Love

Yep, just like that Nana's girl did it, more than 15 inches of that beautiful black luscious hair gone in a heartbeat... She and her Mama called me later to tell me the news... Olivia said,
"It was great Nana, don't worry... it will grow back, and then...
oh well I'll do it AGAIN!"
The good news: some kid somewhere now has a head of Olivia hair! Bet they are lovin that ~

It happened not so long after they had been here... after I had watched with such joy her in the pool playing, floating and just  being an angel with that hair floating arounhd her in the pool! It was one of those "firsts" but without "The Nana" there ~ "The Nana" loves to be there for
"the Olivia firsts as you can only imagine".
This first was BIG!
She is a WARRIOR my Olivia is...
SHE GETS IT!

Amazing to me that one so young can have such an old soul... she's been like that since she was around two years old ~
 And oh she is so funny at times... But with an inquisitive side, a deep side, and a tender honest and true side and a laugh that will light up the world ...
One of fierce loyalty as well, to those she loves.
~ ~ ~
Did I mention that "look"
That look speaks volumes doesn't it?
Ever know someone who could fashion a "look" that speaks so much at such a young and tender age,
much less someone much older ~
That is a look that does not leave one to wonder...
a look that lets you know that you have crossed a line...
 you have just worn out your welcome so to speak...
you have violated sacred ground.

So today, on this bright and beautiful Saturday morning
I will let my beloved Olivia and that "Look" speak volumes for the many from all over who have come to call this page a safe and honoring place.
A place of healing ways
A place of humor
A place of heartaches
A place that others can share their thoughts
A place where some follow and put their pictures
A place of love and prayers across the wireless connection
A place of my thoughts
~ A place of the sacred fire ~

So this morning I will share these thoughts with you... I am honored to breathe the morning air, thrilled beyond measure to have my stress test over and the results to be wonderful...
I am just giddy when reading the comments and emails from all who share their thoughts and stories here.

As everyone knows we have had a "disgruntled" (shall we say) reader who periodically shows up on this page; has made others uncomfortable and has created shall we say...
oh hell why say anything...
it is not worth the time!
Most of those who have known me, know that
I do NOT take tylenol for someone elses fever...
Not now, not ever.
I have never needed to defend myself here or anywhere else, however I will always take a stand for those and STOMP when necessary, and if needed I will use the "delete" key as was done in the past... we all remember that day I am sure. Although we have a record 90 comments there, I did delete more than 39 that day; my attorney has most of them on file, and continues to monitor our pages for educational purposes of course ~
BUT, she is still following, her photo is still there along with other followers (on the right of this in those little boxes)
The most recent comment was viewed as awful, as ridiculous,
as painfully transparent...
 and the readers STOMPED...
/*\
This page is a sacred and nurturing place, folks have even said that this page is unlike any they have ever seen before!
So what I'm thinkin is this,
Olivia's "look" has said what words cannot!
So
enough said from me, I need not say more except this about that:
CANCER SUCKS MY FRIENDS
but you all,
Warriors each and
every one of you...
those who are fighting the battles of Cancer of MS, of ALS, Alzheimer's, the ongoing tasks of Care-giving,
Parkinson's, HIV/AIDS,
Lou Gehrig's Disease, Colon Cancer, Pancreatic Cancer, Glioblastoma, and all those other horrendous diseases that find us living our lives. And those who are grieving the losses of loved ones; those who fought the battles; those who were taken unexpectedly, those precious children all gone too soon; from car wrecks, from childhood cancers; from drug overdoses, brain hemorrhages, from things that just shouldn't happen and shouldn't happen "that way".
Don't block the blessings, they are everywhere...
sometimes ever so hard to see ~
"At least three times every day take a moment and ask yourself what is really important have the wisdom and the courage to build your life around your answer." {Lee Jampolsky}

I never cease to be amazed at the resiliency of the human spirit, the wonderment of the world, the many and beautiful life that we each can touch, feel and be a part of in the greater circle of life. We are with strength here and everywhere, with positive attitudes right here, right now... We are the force ~
~ In the darkness and into the light ~
And for today
Have fun
Listen to the sounds of laughter
'Dance'
to the music
Be the music
Celebrate YOU
Get your Warpaint on

Live Love Laugh Let Yourself Know The Great Imagination
of CHILDHOOD SILLY
"Adults are just obsolete children and the hell with them"
{Dr Seuss}

The fire is burning this morning, its embers are hot. The sage, sweetgrass and cedar are fired up ~ Prayers and thoughts are being sent on the wind:
Chris you are almost home... STOMP my friend and know you are a warrior, your battles have been hard, the fight arduous CANCER SUCKS
Jill: STAND strong, FIGHT, 3 more treatments, CLIMB, HOPE you have a blessed and joyous weekend, WE are with you.
Cindy, strength in the battle, faith and HOPE being sent on the winds from so many.
Virginia Porter in VA ~ blessings and thoughts on the wind
o-si-yo sister you have a lovely daughter with a hospice heart!
To all of you prayers and strength of HOPE on the winds:
Phylis, Angie, Beverly and family, Charlie Soap and family, 6 year old Shelby family and friends, Lee, Liz, Molly, Tonya, Andi and family, Laura and family,Stacey, Vicki and family, Irene, Denise, Jim, Judi, Cindy C, Monica, Luci, Victoria,Jude, Matthew, Andrea, Jaren, Marie, Jimmy, Mark, Matt, Booker,Tom, Joey, Joanie, Rhonda ~`~


"u-nu-le-jee"

The comment yesterday from the beloved VA reader who shared her hospice story filled my heart, my memories and my table with krumpled kleeenex.  Memories of "amazing grace" that make my red heart beat the drum of life with deep and profound gratitude and thanksgiving. Because of this woman, her Mom, and so many...
I've been blessed . Wado ~
We are with you in thoughts today, STAND UP, and
STOMP ~ ~ ~ know that you are never alone.
We have our warpaint on, with amazing grace we will fight with you with honor, with integrity with dignity.
When you are tired, rest
We will fight
When you are rested...
STAND UP
FIGHT
S T O M P
until you are ready to rest and then still,
We will be beside you
along with a band of angels, always with you
May you find comfort in knowing that.

Wherever you are and whatever you are doing
Do it BEST
Make it YOUR DAY
The Best Day EVER!!!

Walk In Beauty,
DRSES
author of
Healing Heartaches, Stories of Loss and Life

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9 comments:

Anonymous said...

WOW.. Listening to "New Attitude" and rocking out already. Would that I could bottle Olivia's look and open that can of Whoop Ass on the rare occasions when my own look fails.
That is fierce. Don't mess with that. Don't mess with us.
OMG, Everybody, click the UTUBE links today. YOU MUST! Amazing Grace in Cheeroke. That is so beautiful, so gently uplifting. You've done it again, and again, and again. How can we thnak you for what you do for us everyday with this Blog? Doc you are the Bomb. Thank YOU, Thank YOU.You have provided all of us with this sacred and powerful space. Thank you for bringing us together; to share, to embrace each other and to grow together. I am glad to come here day after day, to read your thoughts, and others comments, and to leave here each day stronger, STOMPING ON. full of life, and love, and personal power.... and a renewed desire to smile. To laugh, and to spread the joy!

Irene said...

Ditto regarding the first comment above from early morning reader. She said it ALL & more.
Olivia's look would scare me, STUNNED, don't mess with Tess................
I am grateful to be part of this daily blog, the readers, the comments, the reason I turn the computer on first thing is to RUN to the words of Dr. SES each day, with coffee in hand. Thanks, Sherry, I am proud and blessed to know you..........IRM

chris said...

Olivia is da Bomb but that is not surprising Sherry is da Bomb too...it sure is a pleasure to come here every day and "hear" what is on her mind. Oh by the way--did I mention that I am coming home?? yeah!!!
Olivia you can make all those faces you want especially to someone who doesn't 'get it'
Jill hope all is going well -soon real soon!!
Have a great weekend all.....

Anonymous said...

Great thoughts today... but a "fantastic picture of Olivia" A LOOK TO BE SURE ...
thank you.
Precious child, my precious chld died of CANCER died bald, a bald headed child with beautiful eyes once beautiful hair once lively always beautiful gone too soon gone to soon.
But a warrior, brave and also had one of those "you have gone too far" looks!
And she too got it she knew taht CANCER SUCKS
and would have eaten the negative one for breakfast and then puked her up when chemo got the best of her and said, "here is your damn gift" do not get me started on that one i remember that day of the many and sick comments to well
but the warriros here are strong indeed and when you lay with a yellow dog you get infected with their filth and their dis eased flees and you should just flee now that all are onto it here.
STOMPING WITH BEAR SPIRIT.
Congratulations Chris, Stomp on Jill almost there. Wishing Olivia a wonderful life it looks like she has a beautiful start Dr Showalter... and that look! We all need to practice the look while singing NEW ATTITUDE.
PRAYERS FOR ALL HERE AND IN THE NEXT PLACE DANCING WITH MY PRECIOUS CHILD thank u for providing this sacred space of comfort here

viridian.com/greendays said...

Thats my Girl - watch out...Ms. Ugly, please just go away! I am so proud of our family of bloggers who held their ground and stood together against Ms. Ugly. Its a Beautiful Saturday here ; blue sky, breeze , loving it. Happy Saturday All!

Anonymous said...

What a look what a day STOMP Chris on her way home, Jill almost done with treatment Kick cancer's ass Healing Heartaches one heart beat in many hearts along the way thanks DRSES for taking the time for giving us all a sacred place and for kee;ping the fire burning here. we all have come to trust and to depend on that. Sending good thoughts to all here and my prayers are with everyone here. I do love Dr Seauss and still think about that pony quote but now am laughing through the tears at your girl Olivia... through the wise eyes of a child I sure would like to see her STOMP! God Bless You Dr Showalter and all who find their way to this place of Healing Heartaches and healing ways in the real ways of warriors who have walked their vey own trail of tears right?

Angie said...

Mz. Olivia is one for us all to look up too...It's just hair and it will grown back for some but as my cousin said "Somewhere someone is wearing a new "Do" thanks to Olivia"
You go girlie~~
Beautiful day here in SW VA~~Been up since 6am helping a wonderful friend w/a yard sale. May her Mother-in-law RIP~~Saw so many wondeful knick knacks that brought back many memories from my childhood.
My thoughts & prayers go out to all and I hope everyone has a blessed day.
Luv ya Cuz~~

Anonymous said...

Hey, did everyone listen to the 2nd Utube? Amazing Grace in Chrerokee? It was sooo beautiful. Great to read everyone's comments too. To the reader that lost their child to cancer... Glad you are here with us. I know you hold your child close to your heart always. Thank you for telling us about her strong little spirit. Can we kow your child's name? If you want to share a favorite memory, this is a good safe place to tell the story. We "get it" We are all suvivors of some loss and are healing together always. Thanks doc for the blog. You are a wisdom keeper for us all.
Chris, bring it on home! To everyone else, keep on keepin on. You are in my thoughts more than you know.

Anonymous said...

Hey Dr. Ses, just home from the running of the baked spaghetti...was leaving the house when the family returned, only to hug them and discover my sister in law's mother Pat had just died. Mitch and I were in the right place at the right time. "Unfortunate opportunity" to be able to hug, offer hope for tomorrow, grace for this moment. Then we went to Hooters on the river for dinner, beautiful "after sunset"..purple, blues, orange, pink, soft in color, deep in meaning. Took a picture for my sister in law to see God's art, his peace. The water super calm. Then one dolphin swam by. In ALL the times I've gone there, NEVER have I seen a dolphin, let alone the one we saw with part of his fin missing...a broken dolphin. But he/she was on a mission. SO I said to my Mitch, who would've EVER thought today would be what it turned out to be, and he just pointed up. Ah yesm he is SO right, smart guy our Mitchie! On that note I'll bid goodnight, peace to all, hope for tomorrow, it's not a given. STOMP Safe home Chris, welcome!